Welcome to your soft life era. Here are 10 tips on how to live a soft life.
Life is meant to be easy. But we often overcomplicate it.
Maybe it’s the weight of societal expectations, the pressure from social media, or simply being too hard on ourselves.
But here’s the truth: it doesn’t have to be this way.
You can create a life filled with ease, joy, and minimal stress.
ENTER: The Soft Life.
A lifestyle where you intentionally choose how you live, act, and respond — on your own terms — without guilt or remorse.
Keep reading to discover what the soft life is and how you can embrace it for yourself.
What Is Soft Life
The “soft life” is more than just luxury and indulgence — it’s about choosing ease, peace, and alignment over stress, struggle, and burnout.
It’s about living intentionally, prioritizing joy, and embracing a life that feels good inside and out.
A soft life isn’t about laziness or avoiding responsibilities; it’s about moving through life with grace, flow, and self-compassion.
It’s about creating a life where you don’t have to constantly fight or hustle for every little thing.
A soft life is light, simple and filled with ease and joy.
Define your own soft life
The beauty of a soft life is that you get to define it for yourself.
Your definition of a soft life will change as you go through different phases of your life. But to get started, here are 8 questions to consider:
- Why do you want to adopt a soft life approach?
- What would happen if you continue to live life the way you’re living right now?
- What appeals most to you about a soft life? Why?
- How would you like to feel when living in your soft life era?
- Do you resonated with the definition of a soft life? What would you change, add or remove?
- Who in your life lives a soft life? What appeals to you most and least about them?
- What’s one thing you could change today to bring you closer to a “softer” life?
- What do you think will be your biggest challenge to living a soft life? Why?
If you’re ready to welcome more ease and enjoyment into your life, here are 10 tips to help you embrace the soft life.
10 Tips On How To Live A Soft Life
1. Adopt a soft life mindset
Living a soft life starts with your mindset.
Notice your thoughts, the words you say to yourself and the actions you take. Are they negative or positive? Do they serve you or they are self-sabotaging?
Shift your mindset from “I have to struggle to succeed” to “I can achieve success with ease and alignment.”
Let go of the belief that life has to be hard.
Embrace the idea that you deserve joy, peace, and abundance without constant exhaustion.
Habits to developing a soft life mindset:
- Use positive affirmations that embodies a soft life
- Practice mindfulness and meditation
- Surround yourself with people to lives a soft life
- Journal regularly to reduce overthinking and regulate the nervous system
2. Identify and remove stressors
You can’t live a soft life if you’re constantly weighed down by unnecessary stress.
Take a look at your daily routine, relationships, and commitments. What’s draining your energy?
Whether it’s a toxic work environment, unhealthy relationships, or an overbooked schedule, start setting boundaries and eliminating stressors that don’t serve you.
Next, find out what expands your energy, and do more of the things that lifts and brighten your mood.
Say goodby to stress! Discover the 10 practical ways to manage or minimize stress from your life.
3. Prioritize self-care without guilt
Soft life living means treating yourself with care, kindness and compassion.
It means putting yourself No.1 before anyone else.
Some might perceive self-care as selfish but it’s not.
On the contrary, it’s an act of selflessness as you’re committed to showing up as your best self and not your worst to others.
So if you need to take a long bath, read a book in the middle of the day, treat yourself to a luxurious spa, or simply resting when you need to, give yourself permission to recharge without feeling guilty.
Ways to practice self-care:
- Take yourself out on solo date at least once a month
- Set boundaries to protect your wellbeing
- Do activities that bring you joy
- Practice good sleep hygiene
- Journal often to clear your mind
4. Let go of the need to always be “productive”
Work smarter, not harder.
Being productive isn’t the solution to everything, in fact, it might lead to overwhelm and burnout.
Ditch the hustle culture mentality that glorifies busyness as attractive and sexy.
Instead choose efficiency over overworking, and create space for leisure, fun, creativity, and relaxation.
5. Stop being so hard on yourself
Sometimes it’s not your life that’s hard but it’s the way you choose to approach it that makes it hard.
You can’t live a soft and easy life whilst being critical on yourself — it’s like mixing water and oil, it just doesn’t work.
Let go of the self-judgment, perfectionism, and harsh self-talk; they only create more internal stress and unhappiness.
Give yourself grace, practice self-care and remind yourself that you’re doing your best.
6. Curate a peaceful living space
A soft life includes a home that feels like a sanctuary.
It doesn’t need to be Instagram perfect but it has to cater to your personal needs and lifestyle, brings you peace and most importantly, it feels like home.
Keep your space clean, declutter and organise regularly, donate items that don’t align with your soft life era, and add elements that brings you joy.
Check out this room-by-room cleaning checklist so you keep your space clean and tidy and never miss a dirt spot!
7. Surround yourself with positive people
Energy is highly contagious.
Surround yourself with positive and high vibrational people who respect your boundaries, encourage you, and add peace to your life.
A quick way to see whether someone expands or drain your energy is to pulse check how you feel after each interaction. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Does this conversation make you feel tired or energized?
- Do you look forward to seeing them again? Why or why not?
- Do they give you the “ick”?
- Did they respect your boundaries?
Related: 50 Friendship Journal Prompts To Deepen Your Connections
8. Embrace slowness and the present moment
Forget the rush.
Slow down, and enjoy the present moment.
Living a soft life means appreciating the small moments instead of always rushing to the next thing.
However, don’t mistake slow as being unproductive or not getting anything done.
It’s the opposite.
You actually get more done because you’re focused and intentional about everything you do.
Ways to practice slowing down in your daily life:
- Practice box breathing, inhale for 4s, hold for 4s, exhale for 4s, and hold for 4s; repeat this cycle a few times
- Chew each bite 20-40 times
- Practice meditation and mindfulness
- Take intentional pauses throughout the day, when you speak and when you work
9. Let go of control
Living the soft life means going with the flow.
Let go what you cannot control and release all that don’t serve you.
This could be outdated beliefs, toxic people, or even the clutter on your desk. The key is remove anything that makes you feel heavy (remember, a soft life should feel light).
The sooner you learn to release what doesn’t align with your peace and joy, the quicker it is for you to create space for better things to flow into your life.
10. Indulge in life’s luxury
Luxury is self-defined.
To some, that may be designer brand or expensive vacations; to others, that may be time alone at home with their favourite coffee, or a Sunday sleep-in.
Whatever it is that fancy you, do more of it, and sprinkle it in all areas of your life.
A soft life is about making your everyday life feel special.
Welcome To Your Soft Life Era
A soft life is about ease, peace, and intentional living.
It’s about releasing stress, embracing joy, and allowing yourself to receive good things without guilt.
I hope these 10 tips on how to live a soft life can help you get started. Whether it’s through small daily luxuries, a positive mindset, or creating a peaceful environment, it’s within your power to build a life that feels as good as it looks.
Start today by choosing one small change that brings you more ease, softness and joy!
