When was the last time you felt truly at peace?

Do you remember how it felt? What was happening in your life?

If you can’t remember or it’s been a while since you’ve felt that kind of peace, chances are, you’ve been living in survival mode. And you’ve been doing it for so long that it feels normal.

You’ve tricked yourself into believing that this is just how life is supposed to feel: rushed, stressful, overwhelming, and just getting by.

But the reality: survival mode is not your default setting. It’s a coping mechanism.

And it’s not meant to be your way of life forever.

What Is Survival Mode

Survival mode is our brain and body’s way to protect us from threat, harm and instability. It’s the state where your nervous system is on high alert.

It’s a human natural response and it’s not a bad thing.

But when you are on constant high alert, feeling the need to “survive” 24/7, that’s when things get out of hand.

In this mode, you’re no longer making decisions from a grounded place, rather, you’re reacting out of fear, urgency, or exhaustion.

You are not thriving — you are struggling to survive.

And the scariest part? Most of us don’t even realize we’re stuck in survival mode.

10 Signs You Are In Survival Mode (and What To Do Instead)

1. You’re always on the chase

You’re basically running on a hamster wheel.

It’s continuous with no signs of ending. It’s tiring. It’s exhausting.

You believe that if you chase hard enough, get what you want, you will finally be ok.

But once you’ve reached your desire, fear kicks in, and the chasing continues. Why? Because you subconsciously believe that if you stop, everything that you’ve worked hard for will disappear.

This constant chase could be people, achievements, money, approval, love, validation, etc.

How to stop chasing:

• Recognise abundance is available to all.
• Practice self-love and self-compassion, and reconnect with what you genuinely desire.
• Do what feels good for you, and not things that will impress others or what they expect of you.
• Reflect on the below questions:
  • “Would I still want this if no one saw me doing it?”
  • “Does this actually make me happy?”
  • “Will this matter in 3-5 years?”

2. There’s never enough (Time, Money, Energy, Love, etc)

You chase because feel like there isn’t enough — money, love, energy, time, etc.

You operate from a place of lack, fear and scarcity.

You hoard your time, overwork to make more money, or panic when things don’t go as planned.

You always feel like you’re falling short or behind.

How to create more abundance:

• Practice shifting into an abundance mindset, and intentionally remind yourself: “There is more where that came from” or “There is enough for everyone.”
• Count your blessings, and practice gratitude.
• Give and share without fear; rest without guilt.
• Write a gratitude list.

3. You’re constantly people-pleasing

You say “yes” when you mean “no.”

You avoid conflict, you shape-shift to be liked and accepted.

The idea of expressing your need or rejecting others scares you.

You don’t like to disappoint anyone, and subconsciously believe that it’s your job to make others happy.

You tend to sacrifice your peace and happiness for someone else’s comfort, and fear that standing up for yourself will cost you love or connection.

How to stop people pleasing:

• Start setting small boundaries.
• Be audacious and say no without over-explaining or feeling guilty.
• Practice self-love. Be kind and gentle with yourself.
• Only do things that feels good to you and align with your values.

Related: Reclaim Your Power: 28 People Pleasing Journal Prompts

4. You’re tired and overwhelmed

Your body is on alert and you find it difficult to relax.

You experience ongoing symptoms like headaches, gut issues, chest tightness, tension but you brush it off as “normal.”

Your energy is low; even with a full night of sleep, you still don’t feel rested.

Everything you do feels like a chore.

Life feels draining, like you’re dragging yourself through the day.

How to increase your energy level:

• Check in with what’s draining you energetically, and cut ties with these energy suckers.
• Practice self-care and self-love.
• Learn to prioritise yourself, this includes your wants, needs and desires.
• Slow down, listen to your body.
• Eat healthy and nourishing food.
• Rest more; this could be more sleep, taking breaks throughout the day and spending time alone.
• Adopt positive habits that expands your energy and quit bad ones that depletes it.
• Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people and engage in activities that makes you happy.

5. Self-care is non-existent

You prioritize others over yourself.

Your brain thinks self-care can wait until you “fix everything else.”

And even if you have a self-care routine, it doesn’t feel exciting at all and you aren’t wholeheartedly doing it for yourself.

Chances are, you’re rushing it through or only doing it for the sake of doing it — it’s become another task on your to-do list.

How to take care of yourself (self-care tips):

• Bring self-care back to basics. Breathe. Drink water. Go outside. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just intentional care for you and your body.
• Go slow. Be present and intentional with everything you do.
• Spend at 5-minutes a day doing something just because.
• Move your body.
• Say no and honour your boundaries.
• Journal and meditate regularly for emotional regulation.
• Spend time in nature.
• Do things that you love, and do lots of thing.
• Let go of any guilt or shame you have on putting yourself first. Talk to therapist or a life coach, if needed.

6. You’re playing the waiting game

Sadly, you have been waiting for a very long time.

You’re still waiting, and most likely, you will continue to wait.

You’re waiting to be chosen
You’re waiting to be seen.
You’re waiting to be loved.
You’re waiting to be saved.

You secretly hope that something or someone can validate your worth and all that you are.

You put your life on hold, passively waiting for that “magical” change to happen.

How to stop waiting and take your power back:

• Stop waiting for the invitation — give it to yourself.
• Take action. Go out there and create the life you want.
• Say yes to your own life first because once you do, everything else will follow.
• Do one small thing for yourself everyday. This could be buying yourself flowers, doing a hobby you love or giving yourself a day off.
• Build your confidence by doing things that gently expands your comfort zone.
• Repeat positive affirmations like “I can achieve my goals”, “I am worthy and enough”, “I love myself.”
• Practice self-care and self-love.

7. You always stressed or anxious

Your body is tense, it lives in fight-or-flight mode.

Your mind races with endless thoughts.

Even small decisions feel overwhelming.

You try to rest but guilt creeps in.

You can’t remember the last time you felt truly at peace.

How to de-stress and find peace:

• Regulate your nervous system. Do activities like box breathing or grounding practices like meditation.
• Journal regularly to process your thoughts and emotions so they’re not stuck in your body and mind.
• Use aromatherapy; scents like lavender and sandalwood can help calm and soothe the nervous system.
• Spend time in nature.
• Move and stretch body regularly to release tension.
• Talk to friends and surround yourself with positive people.
• Practice self-care and self-love.
• Get more sleep.
• Actively talk to your mind and body; tell them that you are safe, and everything is ok.

8. You struggle to trust (others or yourself)

You doubt people’s intentions. You don’t trust yourself.

You have subconsciously prepared yourself for pain or disappointment.

You become indecisive — second-guessing everything, and afraid of making the wrong decision, even with smallest things. It becomes stressful and exhausting.

How to gain trust again:

• Start small such as trusting someone with a small favor.
• Trust yourself on a tiny decision everyday and journal your experience.
• Talk to a therapist about your trust issues, and work on any past traumas that might lead to your current experience.
• Affirm daily “It is safe to trust”.
• Practice self-care and self-compassion.
• Gently build your self-esteem by taking one small action each that takes you out of your comfort zone
• Let “good enough” be okay. Confidence grows with practice.

9. You lose interest in life

Nothing excites you anymore.

Even your favourite activities, or hobbies…it just feels like another chore that you need to “get it over with.”

You rarely feel joy or sadness. It’s like you’re on autopilot, going through life without really feeling much at all.

You prefer to bed rot, or use distract yourself with your phone, TV or food because it feels much “safer” to do so.

How to be interested in life again:

• Gently reconnect with small pleasures: music that moves you, a sunset, laughter. Let small, safe feelings come back.
• Talk to friends or a therapist.
• Practice self-care and self-love.
• Take yourself out on solo dates at least once a week, even if it’s just for 10 minutes.
• Spend time with nature.
• Watch comedy videos or attend a live improv show.

10. You can’t picture a hopeful future

The future doesn’t excite you.

The idea of planning, dreaming, or feeling excited about it seems impossible or pointless.

When you do think ahead, you end up feeling hopeless, stressed and overwhelmed.

So your main concern becomes “how to get through the day?”

How to be excited about the future:

• Set a small goals that feels safe and comfortable to you like waking up 5 minutes earlier, writing one line in your journal or a solo coffee date.
• Repeat positive affirmations like “The future is hopeful,” “My future is bright,”
• Visualise your future.
• Practice self-care and self-love.
• Surround yourself with positive people. People who vibe high have contagious energy that can uplift our mood and spirit.
• Journal or talk to a therapist.

How To Get Out Of Survival Mode

Getting out of survival mode is possible, but it won’t happen overnight.

The key to success is start small and be consistent with every small shifts you make. Here are small actions you can do everyday to get yourself out of survival mode:

1. Create space to feel
   This isn’t always easy but it’s important to allow our emotions to surface when they need to. Have a journal handy with you so you can write freely how you feel. The key here isn’t to judge but to allow yourself to express freely.
2. Prioritize safety
   Whether it’s emotional, physical, or financial, look at where in your life can you create more stability, and start from there. That is usually the tipping point for everything else in your life.
3. Slow down
   When on survival mode, your mind and body is always in a rush. Rather than autopiloting your way through, be intentional and remind yourself to slow down. Even if your brain says “go faster,” do the opposite, slow down.
4. Nurture your nervous system
   Sleep. Eat nourishing meals. Spend time in nature. Take deep breaths. Be gentle with yourself. Practice self-care and self-love.
5. Reconnect with joy
   Spend your time and energy with people and activities that brings you peace, joy and fun. Create non-negotiable time in your calendar just these “fun things,” even if it’s just 5-minutes. It may seem unnecessary, but trust me, they matter and will create a big difference in how you feel and show up.

Remember: You’re not lazy, broken, or behind. You’re just exhausted from surviving. And your body, mind, and heart are craving something more sustainable. Something softer. Something that brings sparks and joy back into your life.

You Deserve To Thrive

Being on survival mode is meant to protect you, not define you.

It helped you get through hard times, and will continue to do so, but it’s not where you’re meant to stay or feel forever.

You deserve peace.

And more than anything — you deserve to experience a life that doesn’t feel like a fight.

Let this be your reminder: You are allowed to live and thrive.

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Life is meant to be easy. But we often overcomplicate it.

Maybe it’s the weight of societal expectations, the pressure from social media, or simply being too hard on ourselves.

But here’s the truth: it doesn’t have to be this way.

You can create a life filled with ease, joy, and minimal stress.

ENTER: The Soft Life.

A lifestyle where you intentionally choose how you live, act, and respond — on your own terms — without guilt or remorse.

Keep reading to discover what the soft life is and how you can embrace it for yourself.

“You’re allowed to want peace and softness, even if you don’t know how to hold it yet” — Anca-Valeria Bancila

What Is Soft Life

The “soft life” is more than just luxury and indulgence — it’s about choosing ease, peace, and alignment over stress, struggle, and burnout.

It’s about living intentionally, prioritizing joy, and embracing a life that feels good inside and out.

A soft life isn’t about laziness or avoiding responsibilities; it’s about moving through life with grace, flow, and self-compassion.

It’s about creating a life where you don’t have to constantly fight or hustle for every little thing.

A soft life is light, simple and filled with ease and joy.

Define your own soft life

The beauty of a soft life is that you get to define it for yourself.

Your definition of a soft life will change as you go through different phases of your life. But to get started, here are 8 questions to consider:

1. Why do you want to adopt a soft life approach?
2. What would happen if you continue to live life the way you’re living right now?
3. What appeals most to you about a soft life? Why?
4. How would you like to feel when living in your soft life era?
5. Do you resonated with the definition of a soft life? What would you change, add or remove?
6. Who in your life lives a soft life? What appeals to you most and least about them?
7. What’s one thing you could change today to bring you closer to a “softer” life?
8. What do you think will be your biggest challenge to living a soft life? Why?

If you’re ready to welcome more ease and enjoyment into your life, here are 10 tips to help you embrace the soft life.

10 Tips On How To Live A Soft Life

1. Adopt a soft life mindset

Living a soft life starts with your mindset.

Notice your thoughts, the words you say to yourself and the actions you take. Are they negative or positive? Do they serve you or they are self-sabotaging?

Shift your mindset from “I have to struggle to succeed” to “I can achieve success with ease and alignment.”

Let go of the belief that life has to be hard.

Embrace the idea that you deserve joy, peace, and abundance without constant exhaustion.

Habits to developing a soft life mindset:

• Use positive affirmations that embodies a soft life
• Practice mindfulness and meditation
• Surround yourself with people to lives a soft life
• Journal regularly to reduce overthinking and regulate the nervous system

2. Identify and remove stressors

You can’t live a soft life if you’re constantly weighed down by unnecessary stress.

Take a look at your daily routine, relationships, and commitments. What’s draining your energy?

Whether it’s a toxic work environment, unhealthy relationships, or an overbooked schedule, start setting boundaries and eliminating stressors that don’t serve you.

Next, find out what expands your energy, and do more of the things that lifts and brighten your mood.

Say goodby to stress! Discover the 10 practical ways to manage or minimize stress from your life.

3. Prioritize self-care without guilt

Soft life living means treating yourself with care, kindness and compassion.

It means putting yourself No.1 before anyone else.

Some might perceive self-care as selfish but it’s not.

On the contrary, it’s an act of selflessness as you’re committed to showing up as your best self and not your worst to others.

So if you need to take a long bath, read a book in the middle of the day, treat yourself to a luxurious spa, or simply resting when you need to, give yourself permission to recharge without feeling guilty.

Ways to practice self-care:

• Take yourself out on solo date at least once a month
• Set boundaries to protect your wellbeing
• Do activities that bring you joy
• Practice good sleep hygiene
• Journal often to clear your mind

4. Let go of the need to always be “productive”

Work smarter, not harder.

Being productive isn’t the solution to everything, in fact, it might lead to overwhelm and burnout.

Ditch the hustle culture mentality that glorifies busyness as attractive and sexy.

Instead choose efficiency over overworking, and create space for leisure, fun, creativity, and relaxation.

5. Stop being so hard on yourself

Sometimes it’s not your life that’s hard but it’s the way you choose to approach it that makes it hard.

You can’t live a soft and easy life whilst being critical on yourself — it’s like mixing water and oil, it just doesn’t work.

Let go of the self-judgment, perfectionism, and harsh self-talk; they only create more internal stress and unhappiness.

Give yourself grace, practice self-care and remind yourself that you’re doing your best.

6. Curate a peaceful living space

A soft life includes a home that feels like a sanctuary.

It doesn’t need to be Instagram perfect but it has to cater to your personal needs and lifestyle, brings you peace and most importantly, it feels like home.

Keep your space clean, declutter and organise regularly, donate items that don’t align with your soft life era, and add elements that brings you joy.

Check out this room-by-room cleaning checklist so you keep your space clean and tidy and never miss a dirt spot!

7. Surround yourself with positive people

Energy is highly contagious.

Surround yourself with positive and high vibrational people who respect your boundaries, encourage you, and add peace to your life.

A quick way to see whether someone expands or drain your energy is to pulse check how you feel after each interaction. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• Does this conversation make you feel tired or energized?
• Do you look forward to seeing them again? Why or why not?
• Do they give you the “ick”?
• Did they respect your boundaries?

Related: 50 Friendship Journal Prompts To Deepen Your Connections

8. Embrace slowness and the present moment

Forget the rush.

Slow down, and enjoy the present moment.

Living a soft life means appreciating the small moments instead of always rushing to the next thing.

However, don’t mistake slow as being unproductive or not getting anything done.

It’s the opposite.

You actually get more done because you’re focused and intentional about everything you do.

Ways to practice slowing down in your daily life:

• Practice box breathing, inhale for 4s, hold for 4s, exhale for 4s, and hold for 4s; repeat this cycle a few times
• Chew each bite 20-40 times
• Practice meditation and mindfulness
• Take intentional pauses throughout the day, when you speak and when you work

9. Let go of control

Living the soft life means going with the flow.

Let go what you cannot control and release all that don’t serve you.

This could be outdated beliefs, toxic people, or even the clutter on your desk. The key is remove anything that makes you feel heavy (remember, a soft life should feel light).

The sooner you learn to release what doesn’t align with your peace and joy, the quicker it is for you to create space for better things to flow into your life.

10. Indulge in life’s luxury

Luxury is self-defined.

To some, that may be designer brand or expensive vacations; to others, that may be time alone at home with their favourite coffee, or a Sunday sleep-in.

Whatever it is that fancy you, do more of it, and sprinkle it in all areas of your life.

A soft life is about making your everyday life feel special.

Welcome To Your Soft Life Era

A soft life is about ease, peace, and intentional living.

It’s about releasing stress, embracing joy, and allowing yourself to receive good things without guilt.

I hope these 10 tips on how to live a soft life can help you get started. Whether it’s through small daily luxuries, a positive mindset, or creating a peaceful environment, it’s within your power to build a life that feels as good as it looks.

Start today by choosing one small change that brings you more ease, softness and joy!

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Do you know what never goes out of style?

Good money habits.

They’re not just something you should practice when you don’t have money — they are habits you should maintain whether you’re struggling or thriving financially.

A good money habit is an investment to yourself and your future, and trust me, they can go a long way.

It helps with financial stability, independence, and success. More importantly, it gives you control over your finances, reduces stress, and allows you to build the life you want.

What Is A Good Money Habit

“Financial freedom is available to those who learn about it and work for it.” —Robert Kiyosaki

Good money habit is the practice of mindful saving, spending and investing.

It’s about being intentional with your finances and cultivating a positive money mindset.

Whether it’s frugal habits, making wise spending decisions, or following a minimalist budgeting approach, learning how to develop good money habits can help you save money, reduce debt, build wealth, and become a more financially savvy and responsible person.

By adopting these positive habits into your daily life, you can create a solid financial foundation and work towards long-term financial success.

How To Build Good Money Habits

Developing good money habits takes time, but with consistency, they become second nature, a part of your daily routine.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you build and maintain these positive habits:

1. Set clear financial goals
   Define what you want to achieve. Ask yourself: How much do I need to save for short-term and long-term? How much debt do I have? How much do I need for retirement? How much do I need to make to sustain my desired lifestyle?
2. Start small
   Choose one or two money habits to focus on first, preferably start with the ones that have greater financial impact. Gradually add more as you become comfortable.
3. Create a budget
   Track your income and expenses to understand where your money is going and adjust accordingly so it aligns with your short-term and long-term financial goals.
4. Automate your finances
   Set up automatic transfers to savings, bill payments, and investments to stay consistent.
5. Review your finances regularly
   Whether it’s daily, weekly or monthly, do a routine check-in on your money and spending, your financial goals and make adjustments to your strategies as needed.
6. Stay accountable
   Share your goals with a trusted financial advisor, finance/money coach or use financial apps to stay on track.
7. Educate yourself
   Continuously learn about personal finance and investment through books, courses, or podcasts. Also, stay on top of economic news and current events as these can have indirect impact to your finances (example: tariffs, consumer price index and inflation).
8. Reward yourself
   Saving money is the goal but it’s also ok to reward yourself. Be intentional and discipline on how you spend your money.
9. Stay consistent
   Building habits takes time, but with discipline and consistency, you will achieve financial success.

Now that you know how to create good money habits, read on next to learn the 25 money-saving habits that can help you save more and reach your financial goals.

25 Good Habits To Save Money

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1. Track your income and expenses

This is an easy one but often ignored.

It’s the first step, and a very important one, to saving more money and building wealth. (Think about, if you don’t do this, how will you know where you’re money is going?)

All you need to do is create a habit of recording your income and spending.

There are plenty of free tutorials online on how to create your own expense trackers (see below), or use a budgeting app like Mint to track your spending.

If you prefer non-digital options, try traditional methods like the popular budget binder or budget planner and organizer.

2. Adopt the 24-hour rule

Sales are happening everyday and the temptation to buy is higher than ever. And, there’s also FOMO.

But don’t give in.

Avoid impulse purchases by waiting at least 24 hours before buying non-essential items. This helps you decide if you really need it or you just want it for the sake of wanting it.

If you do make an impulse buy, double check the return policy that full refund is allowed before purchases. In the case that you change your mind, you could always get a full refund.

But by all means, hold off on buying when possible.

3. Meal plan and cook at home

Aside from large purchases like home goods and appliances, eating out is another cost that adds up.

Consider meal prepping and cooking at home to reduce dining out and take out costs.

Planning your meals in advance not only save money on groceries it’s also a great way to improve your culinary skills and eat healthier as you have more control on what goes in your food.

4. Review your subscriptions

Make a habit to review all your subscriptions on a monthly, quarterly and yearly basis, and cancel the ones that you no longer use.

This also includes free subscriptions like online newsletters and marketing emails as they’re usually embedded with affiliate links designed to make you spend.

5. Use cashback and rewards programs

Did you know that there are apps that pay you to walk? Or companies like Cathay Pacific will reward you with Asia Miles if you successfully complete their wellness challenges?

Take advantage of cashback offers, rewards programs, and credit card points available to your region to get money back on purchases you already make and activities that you already do.

6. Shop with a list

Spend 5-10 minutes to create a shopping list before heading out to the store.

A shopping list can help you avoid unnecessary or impulsive purchases as well as keep you on budget.

7. Opt for pre-loved or second-hand

Check your local garage sale, consignment shops or Facebook Marketplace before shopping at the store.

These second-hand marketplaces are often filled with great deals and mint condition products.

Buying second hand item isn’t just a great way to save money but it reduce waste and promote sustainability.

8. Use public transportation or carpool

With the gas prices on the rise, consider using public transportation, carpooling or biking instead of driving everywhere.

Not only do you cut down on gas but you avoid parking fees, and other maintenance costs involved.

Alternatively, opt for car sharing services that allows you to rent the car when you need it. You only pay when you use the car. This is a great way to save money needed to buy a car as well as the ongoing vehicle expenses like insurance, fuel and parking.

9. DIY instead of paying for services

Sometimes rolling up your sleeves is quicker (and cheaper) than hiring help.

From basic home repairs, beauty treatments like manicure and pedicure, or simple car maintenance, these are all basic skills that you can learn online for free.

It’s a win-win — you save money and learn a new skill.

10. Negotiate bills & subscriptions

Everything is negotiable — your bills included.

Call your internet, phone, insurance or any service providers to negotiate for a better rate.

While the difference might not be astronomical but they add up, and the additional money can go towards your savings, debt, investments or other purchases.

11. Pay yourself first

Always pay yourself first after every paycheque.

This is a non-negotiable habit that you must make.

Doing this ensures that you’re saving money and making investments for your future.

Consider setting up automatic transfers at the start of the month to your savings account before spending on anything else.

12. Follow the 50/30/20 rule

The 50/30/20 rule is a popular budgeting method on how you should allocate your income:
50% to needs
30% to wants
20% to savings or debt repayment

Other budgeting rules to consider are: 80/20 rule, 50/15/5 rule, 60/20/20 rule and 70/20/10 rule.

While budgeting rule can help improve your finances, it’s important to remain flexible, and consider your own financial goals.

13. Use separate accounts for savings

Create different saving accounts for different purposes.

It’s a great way to keep yourself on track and reduce the temptation to use more spending money than needed.

14. Set specific savings goals

Each savings should have its own specific goals.

Whether it’s an emergency fund, vacation, or a big purchase, be clear with what that amount is.

Having a goal makes saving easier, and reduces overspending,

15. Automate savings and investments

Each year, set aside some time to think about how much money you need to save and how much contribution you want to make for each of your savings.

Consider setting up auto-transfers to ensure consistent contributions without having to think about it.

16. Save for rainy days

Life happens, and unpredictably.

So it’s important to have an emergency fund that’s easily accessible either in cash or cash equivalents.

The purpose of having an emergency saving is to help you cover unexpected expenses like medical bills and accidents.

17. Practice gratitude

This isn’t a savings tip, but having gratitude can boost your wealth and increase your abundance.

Appreciating what you already have can help reduce the urge to spend on things you don’t need, and minimize the feeling like you don’t have enough.

18. Avoid lifestyle inflation

It’s a misconception that when you make more, you have to spend more.

You don’t.

Your spending rate doesn’t need to match your income gain.

Spend within your means and only buy what you need.

Save the extra earnings instead.

19. Find free or low-cost entertainment

This one is self-explanatory.

Look for free or budget-friendly activities that won’t bleed your wallet.

Activities like hiking, going to the library, window shopping, joining free community events, or a movie night at home, are all simple ways to save money whilst providing heaps of entertainment.

20. Surround yourself with like-minded people

You are the sum of the people you surround yourself with.

Spend time with people who value saving, have smart financial habits, possess a positive money mindset and live a lifestyle that you aspire to have.

This positive influence can motivate you to build better money habits and take action towards your financial goals.

21. Learn to say no (set boundaries)

Know your spending limits and stick to it (refer to your saving goals and budgeting sheet to find out).

When you know your limits, you minimize the risk of overspend, especially under social pressure situations.

You will also be more confident and assertive in declining expensive outings or unnecessary purchases that don’t align with your financial goals.

22. Stay educated on personal investment and finance

Be financially literate.

Read books, watch videos, or listen to finance podcasts to continuously improve your money management skills.

By adopting these positive financial habits, you can save more money, be financial savvy and build a secure financial future.

Resources to improve your finance:

• The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel
• The Old Money Book: How To Live Better While Spending Less by Byron Tully 
• You Need a Budget by Jesse Mecham 
• Millionaire Mindset and Success Habits by H.J Chammas
• Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki 

24. Use positive money affirmations

Our words can affect the way we think, feel and act.

Repeating positive affirmations about money can help reinforce a healthy financial mindset.

Read this post to learn more about money affirmations and words to avoid.

25. Limit the use of auto-payments

While auto-payments make our lives easier by preventing missed payments and penalties, they can also lead to overspending.

Merchants may charge more than stated, fraudulent charges can go unnoticed, or credit card annual fees that could be waived by contacting customer service.

Reviewing monthly statements and direct deposit invoices helps avoid extra charges and ensures you’re only paying what’s needed.

Be Financially Responsible

Saving money is not about deprivation; it’s about making smarter choices that set you up for financial success.

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Whether you’re a TikTok refugee, looking to expand your audience reach, or exploring new ways to monetize your content, this article covers the essential tips you need to know about Xiaohongshu (XHS) REDNote app.

While the app is easy to use, its unspoken rules and unique culture can make or break your experience.

The last thing you want is to upload content only to find out it’s been flagged or removed for violating community guidelines.

Let’s dive straight into the tips that will help you survive and thrive on REDNote.

11 Tips On How To Use REDNote (Do’s & Don’ts)

Using REDNote is like traveling to a foreign country.

Before you go, you research the language, culture, and etiquette to understand what’s appropriate and what’s not.

Applying the same mindset to REDNote ensures you build positive connections and avoid common pitfalls.

Here are the 11 tips on how to use Xiaohongshu.

1. Learn the local language

While you don’t need to be fluent in Chinese, learning basic phrases can go a long way.

Think of it like traveling — knowing how to say “hello,” “thank you,” and other essentials makes connection and engagement smoother. This means understanding key terms and being able to recognize basic text on the app.

Plus your effort in getting to know Chinese will be much appreciated by local netizens.

DO: Learn basic Chinese via platforms like Duolingo, YouTube or free language exchange channels.

2. Add Chinese subtitles

Xiaohongshu is a Chinese platform designed for their people.

While many Chinese are fluent in English, adding Chinese subtitles to your videos and descriptions shows respect and effort. Even if your translations aren’t perfect, locals will appreciate your attempt to connect.

DO: Add Simplified Chinese subtitles to your videos, and consider also translating your description and comments.

3. Be respectful

Respect yourself, your audience and the REDNote community guidelines.

Avoid stereotypes or content that might be seen as disrespectful.

Make sure that everything you post (comments, descriptions, etc) are culturally appropriate, original (not someone else’s), not sexualised, racist, political or anything over the top that’s not part of the cultural norm.

Remember, the values of Chinese and North Americans are very different. Think with Chinese values and etiquette in mind before sharing.

DO: Respect local differences and Xiaohongshu community guidelines. If you’re not sure or have concerns, reach out to REDNote for help. Alternatively, share your questions on the app — local users are warm and friendly, and many will be able to provide you the answers you need.

4. Be authentic

Like desperation, inauthenticity can be spotted a mile away.

Share your real experiences and personal stories.

If you’re doing a product review, disclose that it’s commissioned or sponsored.

DO: Be yourself and have fun.

5. Avoid external links or shop promotion

Unlike Tik Tok or Instagram where external links to personal or shopping websites are encouraged, this type of promotion is an absolute no-no in XHS.

REDNote work very hard to keep the community safe, any products or services that you want to sell must be fully disclosed and sold via the app (you have to open a store within the platform), and no where else.

Do not attempt to cheat around the system and risk getting banned from the community.

DON’T: Avoid sharing any external links or encouraging viewers to visit shops outside of Xiaohongshu. This is not allowed. All products, and sponsorships included, are dealt within the platform.

6. Engage with the community

Like all other social platform, engagement is key.

Comment on other posts, respond to comments on your content, write thoughtful Notes and interact with trending hashtags.

When engaging, always mindful of the cultural differences and local etiquette.

Avoid spamming comments like “follow to follow” or “like for like.”

DO: Proactively connect with local users. Consider using Google Translate or similar apps to boost engagement.

7. Follow the REDNote community guidelines

It’s important that you familiarize yourself with REDNote’s official guidelines to ensure your content aligns with their standards, and to avoid issues like post removal and account suspensions.

Following the rules not only protects your account but also helps maintain a positive environment for all users.

DO: Familiarize yourself with the Xiaohongshu community guideline.

8. Don’t be negative

Avoid overly critical or negative posts or comments.

This includes using verbal abusive words, swearing, and promoting harm and violence.

REDNote’s community values positivity and constructive feedback.

Sharing optimism and solutions is a great way to boost engagement and goodwill among users.

DON’T: Pessimism is not welcome in the XHS community. Doing so may lead to account suspension or ban.

9. Avoid all political discussion or sharing

RedNote isn’t the place for political debates or controversial discussions.

Unlike other platforms that might tolerate controversial topics, RedNote focuses on content such as lifestyle, travel, and food. Remember to keep your content aligned with these themes.

DON’T: Discuss share or discuss controversial and overly sensitive topics in any of your posts, comments and desciption.

10. Learn from feedback

Xioahongshu is a friendly community with very supportive netizens.

Be open-minded about feedback on your content — it’s an opportunity for growth and understanding what resonates with your audience.

DO: You’re on a new platform — learn, unlearn and relearn, and enjoy the process.

11. Stay consistent

Like any other platform, building a following or creating influence on REDNote requires consistency.

Post regularly (a few times daily if possible) and maintain the same high-quality standards. Also, do research on your topic and pay attention to trends to stay relevant.

DO: Show up for yourself every single day.

Conclusion

By following these tips, you’ll not only avoid common mistakes but also build a positive reputation in the community.

Think of RedNote as a unique destination — the more effort you put into understanding its culture, the more rewarding your experience will be.

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